Resources

Affairs

Books:

• • • After the Affair – Janis Abrahms Spring

• • • Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal and Move On..Together Or Apart – Douglas K. Snyder

• • • Help Your Spouse Heal From an Affair: A Compact Guide for the Unfaithful – Linda J. MacDonald

• • • How Can I Forgive You? – Janis Abrahms Spring

• • • Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Relationships and Recovering Sanity After An Affair – Shirley Glass

• • • The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity – Tammy Nelson

• • • The State of Affairs by Esther Perel

 

Anger

        Books: 

• • • Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hahn

• • • The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner

Anxiety

        Books:

• • • • The Cognitive-Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety: A Step-by-Step Program – William Knaus

• • • • The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy – John Forsyth & Georg Eifert

• • • • When Panic Attacks: The New Drug-Free Therapy That Can Change Your Life – David Burns

• • • • Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat Zinn

• • • • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

• • • • When a Family Member has OCD by Jon Hershfield

• • • • Everyday Mindfulness for OCD by Jon Hershfield

• • • • The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD by Jon Hershfield

• • • • Bouncing Back by Linda Graham

• • • • Resilience workbook by Linda Graham

 

Boundaries:

        Books:

• • • • Boundaries by Anne Katherine

• • • • How to be an Adult in Relationships by David Richo

• • • • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab

        Websites: 

• • • • https://www.nedratawwab.com/freeworksheets

 

Chronic Illness and Disability

        Books:

• • • • Dancing with Elephants by Jarem Sawatsky

• • • • Aches, Pains, and Love by Kira Lynne

 

Compulsive/ Problematic Sexual Behaviors

• • • • The Myth of Sex Addiction by David Ley

Depression

        Books:

• • • • Depression Fallout – Anne Sheffield

• • • • Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy – David Burns

• • • • How You Can Survive When They’re Depressed: Living and Coping with Depression Fallout – Anne Sheffield

• • • • I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression – Terrence Real

• • • • The Cognitive-Behavioral Workbook for Depression: A Step-by-Step Program – William Knaus

• • • • The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beating Depression without Drugs – Stephen Ilardi

• • • • When Someone You Love is Depressed: How to Help Your Loved One Without Losing Yourself – Laura Epstein Rosen & Xavier Franciso Amador

• • • • The Monster Under the Bed (Sex with Depression) by JoEllen Notte

• • • • The Pleasure Zone by Stella Resnick

• • • • The Book of Hope: A Survival Guide for Trying Times by Jane Goodall and Douglas Abrams

        Websites:

• • • • https://thehappinesstrap.com/

 

Divorce & Children

        Books:

• • • • Helping Children Cope with Divorce – Edward Teyber

• • • • Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce – JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

• • • • The Good Divorce – Constance Ahrons

 

End of Relationship/Divorce

        Books:

• • • • Coming Apart – Daphne Rose Kingma

• • • • Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Best Thing

• • • • That Ever Happened to You – Susan J Elliott

• • • • Should I Stay or Go?: How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage – Lee Raffel

• • • • Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship – Robert Buchicchio

• • • • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay – Mira Kirshenbaum

 

Family & Relationship Dynamics

        Books:

• • • • How Can I Get Through to You? – Terrence Real

• • • • The Dance of Anger – Harriet Lerner

• • • • The Dance of Deception – Harriet Lerner

• • • • The Dance of Intimacy – Harriet Lerner

• • • • Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life – Susan Forward

 

Kink

        Books: 

• • • • SM 101 by Jay Wiseman

• • • • The Leather Couch by Stefani Goerlich

• • • • The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton

• • • • The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton

• • • • Let’s Talk About Kink and Fetishes by J.R. James

• • • • Exploring BDSM by Morgan Thorne

 

Marriage/Committed Relationship

        Books: 

• • • • Fighting for Your Marriage – Howard J. Markman and Scott M. Stanley

• • • • Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix

• • • • Hold Me Tight – Sue Johnson

• • • • Love Sense – Sue Johnson

• • • • Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up – Harriet Lerner

• • • • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work – Terrence Real

• • • • The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel

• • • • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – John Gottman & Nan Silver

• • • • Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman

• • • • Relationship Agreements by Eri Kardos

• • • • How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love

• • • • Loving Like You Mean It by Ronald Frederick

        Podcasts:

• • • • https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/?refinementList%5Btopics%5D%5B0%5D=Relationships&pagination=1

 

Mindfulness

        Books:

• • • • Everyday Mindfulness for OCD by Jon Hershfield

• • • • The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD by Jon Hershfield

• • • • Bouncing Back by Linda Graham

• • • • Resilience workbook by Linda Graham

• • • • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

• • • • Bouncing Forward: The Art and Science of Cultivating Resilience by Michaela Haas

• • • • Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat Zinn

• • • • The Awakened Brain by Lisa Miller

• • • • MIndfulness: A Practical Guide to Awakening by Joseph Goldstein

        Websites:

• • • • https://www.insightmeditationtucson.org/ (Local Resource)

• • • • https://www.tucsonbuddhistcenter.org/index.php/classes/ (Local Resource)

• • • • https://lindagraham-mft.net/resources/

• • • • https://awakeningjoy.info/index.php

 

Opening Up Your Relationship/ Polyamory

        Books:

• • • • More than Two by Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux

• • • • Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

• • • • Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels, Lyssa Browne, et al. 

• • • • The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

• • • • Love Refraction by Jillian Deri

• • • • The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

• • • • Let’s Talk About Non-Monogamy by J.R. James

        Websites:

• • • • https://www.morethantwo.com/

 

Parenting

        Books:

• • • • 1-2-3 Magic – Thomas Phelan

• • • • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk – Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

• • • • Parenting From the Inside Out – Daniel Siegel

• • • • Parenting with Love & Logic – Foster Cline & Jim Fay

• • • • Raising Your Spirited Child – Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

• • • • The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children – Shefali Tsabary

• • • • The Whole-Brain Child – Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

        Podcasts:

• • • • https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/?refinementList%5Btopics%5D%5B0%5D=Parenting&pagination=1

 

Self-Esteem

        Books:

• • • • Any books by Brené Brown

• • • • How to be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman

• • • • Unfuck Yourself by Gary Bishop

• • • • The Lies We Tell Ourselves by Jon Frederickson

• • • • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

• • • • Bouncing Back by Linda Graham

• • • • Resilience workbook by Linda Graham

        Websites:

• • • • https://brenebrown.com/

• • • • https://self-compassion.org/

        Podcasts:

• • • • https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/

 

Sexuality

        Books:

             (Couples)

• • • • The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin

• • • • Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Pleasure Together – Tammy Nelson

• • • • Hot Monogamy – Patricia Love

• • • • Red Hot Monogamy by Bill Farrel

• • • • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence – Esther Perel

• • • • She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman – Ian Kerner

• • • • The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage’s Libido: A Couple’s Guide – Michele Weiner Davis

• • • • Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller

• • • • Modern Sexuality by Michael Aaron

• • • • Let’s Talk About Sexual Fantasies and Desires by J.R. James

• • • • The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love by Stella Resnick

• • • • Blow Each Other Away by JAIYA

• • • • Sexual Mindfuless by Richard Blonna

• • • • A Revolutionary Guide to Reclaiming Your Sex Life – Laura Berman

• • • • Rekindling Sexual Desire – Barry W. McCarthy PhD and Emily McCarthy

• • • • The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion – Gina Ogden

           

             (Vulva Owners)

• • • • Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

• • • • Come As You Are Workbook

• • • • Finding Your Sexual Voiceby Barry McCarthy

• • • • Becoming Orgasmic by Julia Heiman

• • • • The Vagina Bible by Jen Gunter

• • • • Sex Matters for Women by Foley, Kope, and Sugrue

• • • • A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex by Laurie Mintz

• • • • Madness to Mindfulness by Jennifer Gunsaullus

• • • • Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori Brotto

 

             (Penis Owners)

• • • • Coping with Erectile Dysfunction – Barry W. McCarthy PhD and Michael E. Metz PhD

• • • • Coping with Premature Ejaculation – Barry W. McCarthy PhD and Michael E. Metz PhD

             (All Individuals)

• • • • Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin

• • • • The Monster Under the Bed (Sex with Depression) by JoEllen Notte

• • • • ADHD After Dark by Ari Tuckman

 

Painful Sex:

• • • • Heal Pelvic Pain by Amy Stein

• • • • Aches, Pains, and Love by Kira Lynne

        Podcasts:

• • • • https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/

• • • • https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-therapy-with-dr-jones/id1489854551

 

Porn

• • • • Ethical Porn for Dicks by David Ley

• • • • His Porn, Her Pain by Marty Klein

 

Vaginismus

        Websites:

• • • • https://www.vaginismus.com/